Kendra Holliday: Sex and Relationship Consultant
COVID-19 update, May 26, 2020: In an effort to keep all of us safe, I’m greatly limiting in-person meetings at this time, with screening, masks and distance required. Virtual meetings are safest option. Please bear with me as I figure out new procedures, thank you!
Q: How much is a consultation?
A: My rate is $120/hr. I prefer checks, money orders, and cash. Due to big banks targeting small businesses related to adult topics, I don’t have access to PayPal or Square. Please see my reservation page for more details.
Q: When are you going to see clients again?
A: That’s a good question! I don’t know yet. Every time I watch the news, I feel so confused about the safety and social protocol. One thing for sure is, I can’t go back to doing things the way I used to. I’m going to have to be more selective with who I share intimate space with, which means I’ll need to restructure my rates and services. I’m looking at shifting my business model into something more mainstream, but I haven’t figured out all the details yet. I haven’t decided what I’m going to do next, which is why I am slow to make plans.
Q: Are you a scam?
A: No. I am Queen of my empire, a goddess, a fountain of positive female energy, a mom next door, and many other things, but I am not a scam.
Please keep reading below, and see my reservation page for why I require payment upfront for our first appointment. Feel free to Google my name – I’m quite proud of my extraordinary life and the fact that I am the opposite of boring. :)
Q: What can I expect at our initial consultation?
A: The first session is an initial consultation and is talking only, (Skype or phone works for long distance). I get to know you by asking questions regarding current life, family history, childhood history, sexual history, fantasy interests, goals, and offer feedback. You are welcome to ask me anything as well. Together, we will explore life’s mysteries and what brought us together. We’ll cover a lot of ground in just one hour. Afterward, I will provide a review of what we discussed and offer some non-traditional options, suggestions, and resources.
Q: Do you offer free quickie consults for like 10 or 15 minutes?
A: No, but feel free to search for keywords on my blog The Beautiful Kind, which is full of free resources and advice, or attend one of my Sex Positive St Louis events and say hello! A lot of our events are free and public.
Q: Can we meet in person?
A: I’m based in St. Louis, MO, and love meeting in person, but can conduct sessions over Skype or phone for those not in the St. Louis area. I’m located about two hours drive from Columbia MO or Springfield IL, three~ hours from Springfield MO and Peoria IL, four hours from Kansas City and Nashville, and five hours from Chicago and Memphis.
Q: Can you travel to me?
A: If you cover travel expenses and fees, sure!
Q: I have really personal stuff to discuss. Can we keep it private?
A: Certainly! Confidentiality is assured.
Q: Do you take insurance?
A: I’m sorry, but I do not.
Q: What is your availability?
A: I’m available days, evenings, and weekends. My hours are between 8am-9pm cst (no late night appointments). Please be patient and follow my guidelines; I usually book a week or two out.
Q: I’ve never met you before. You don’t know who I am. Can I have your time today, tomorrow, or maybe even right this second?
A: I’m a person, not a pizza! Please see above.
Q: Can I request an appointment via Twitter, Facebook, or text?
A: You can try, but those aren’t the best methods. I’m not that great at texting, and messages can get lost in the sea of social media. Your best bet is to fill out my contact form or email me directly: firstname.lastname@example.org
Q: Are you a St. Louis escort?
Q: Do you work with couples?
A: Yes, I can meet with you solo, or with your partner. I have experience with men, women, couples, *trans, triads, polyamory, kink, fetishes, disabilities, alternative lifestyles, and more.
Q: Who is Kendra Holliday?
A: In the spirit of being open and honest, my life is an open book and can be viewed at my website, The Beautiful Kind. Click here to learn more about me. As a professional and expert, I believe in transparency and invite your curiosity. I daresay that the more you learn about me, the more intriguing I become.
Listen to this 30 minute podcast interview to get a taste of who I am and what I’m all about.
I believe that as long as you take care of your obligations and duties, you can have as much fun as you want, as long as you’re not hurting others. In other words, I promote responsible hedonism and don’t have time for guilt or shame.
I’m also one of the Co-Founders of Sex Positive St. Louis, a community resource and safe environment for people in the St. Louis metro area who are interested in human sexuality.
I’ve been through a lot in my life, but strongly believe in moving forward and turning negatives into positives. I am happy to answer any questions about me that you might have.
Q: Why choose Personal Consulting over Professional Licensed Therapy?
A: I offer an alternative to traditional sex therapy. I’ve had many clients tell me they have achieved bigger breakthroughs meeting with me once or twice than they’ve had after spending months or years working with their professional therapist. They don’t feel comfortable discussing sex and related intimate issues with their therapist, and would rather speak with someone who is more on their level and will not judge them. Traditional therapy certainly has its place, but is not always the most effective way to address problems.
Social critic Barbara Ehrenreich offers an interesting take: “What therapy aims to achieve is not health, but compliance to social norms.”
I encourage people to think outside the cage. So many people put themselves in self-imposed cages – at work, at home – then feel miserable and end up on anti-depressants.
I offer a different approach. I look past social norms and dig deeper into our human nature. Using my connections and knowledge, I offer tools and resources to examine your unique situation. I won’t necessarily solve your problems, but I will offer you the keys to step outside the cage you’ve found yourself in. It’s up to you to decide how far you want to go with your self-actualization. Our societal constraints are not conducive to self-actualization, because so many people can’t be open and honest about who they really are.
We all have a choice to be honest with ourselves. It takes courage. I am here to help.
Q: As a Personal Consultant, where did you learn about life and sexuality?
A: I have very little formal training or education as a sex consultant. All of the information and ideas I share with other people are based on self-study and 25 years of personal experience. That doesn’t mean I’m declaring, “Hey I’m sexually active, therefore I’m an expert.” If I’m curious about a fetish or lifestyle, I jump in and get firsthand experience. I like hands on learning. I have cultivated some fantastic connections and resources. My personal website is my vita. Others are able to glean from my experiences, both good and bad. I’m happy to share my personal stories if it can save others time and grief. I’ve worked hard and have had to be bold and courageous to get to where I am. Everyone deserves to be happy and accepted for who they are.
The key to happiness and health? Love, acceptance and respect.
Q: What is a sex surrogate partner? What is sexual surrogacy?
A: A sex surrogate, also called a surrogate partner or intimacy coach, is a person who helps others overcome social and sexual issues through hands on intimacy. It is intimate. It is therapeutic. It is not entertainment.
Q: I’m ready to make some positive changes in my life. How do I get started?
A: First of all, do you have Cowboy Ethics? If so, then after browsing around this site (please see my reservation policy), go to the Contact page and fill out the form. I will get back to you as soon as possible to make arrangements and schedule an initial consultation. I look forward to working with you!